How to travel as a couple

For my 100th blog post I decided to dedicate it to my amazing boyfriend, who has supported me through my blogging adventure and through every step of the past 20 months. We wind each other up all the time, but that’s what makes our relationship work. We met while on ICS in another country, our first date was the holiday to Malmö and Copenhagen, so we have a mutual love of travelling. Since then we’ve been all over, so I wanted to share our tips and tricks to being a couple who travels together a lot!!

Ledbury couple

We are very similar people, but as travellers we are chalk and cheese. My boyfriend is the most laid back traveller on the planet, he won’t be on a plane until his name is called. I am the first person in the queue, even though I know the plane hasn’t landed yet. He also goes to places with no plan, I often research the place before and know every little part I want to see. BUT, I have been flexible and compromised, like he has for me, and we flew to Morocco with 4 night booked but no other plans!

 

Here’s the best advice I can give you as a travelling couple:

 

Get on

 

This goes without saying, in order to travel you have to get on well. In fact to be in a relationship you have to get on well, especially when that is put under stress by being in different countries and environments.

We’ve probably only argued properly twice and they were under stress. The first I was very hungry or should I say hangry and we had been walking up the hill in Serbia. We argued over which direction to walk back and we were dehydrated, grumpy and I let my boyfriend pick which direction to go. Then while walking along he continued to tell me why it was the best way to walk, even though we were walking. So I flipped out and walked off! All was good after 30 seconds though!!

 

The other time, was my boyfriend trying not to be angry with me when I made us get off the bus 1 miles too early in Cluj as I didn’t want to miss the stop for the airport.

Selfie Eiffel tower

Voice your opinions

 

Sometime this can lead to arguments, but normally it is better to share your opinions. This stops any of arguments getting bigger and loads of things getting dragged in. This doesn’t mean get really angry and e horrible, just let the other person know if there’s something you want to do or see. 

 

If you think we’re going the wrong way, say something rather than after we’ve gone the wrong way.  We put everything out in the open all the time, we’re always honest with each other and that really works while travelling.

 

Share your emotions

 

I have mentioned before, but I suffer with depression and my boyfriend is an absolute hero when he supports me through every struggle. It is important, especially while travelling, to share those emotions so we can plan our days accordingly.  

We’ve both had tired days, low days and just days where watching tv is all we want to do. I know we should be soaking up every second of travel, but you need some self care. My self care involves chocolate and my boyfriends is binge watching tv series. So we do that, and it works.

 

Take time for yourselves

 

This doesn’t mean you have to be apart, but just read a book, scroll through instagram or just have a few moments to yourself. We normally sit next to each other while doing this, but it just means we have some time for ourselves.

When we were in Bologna, I kept trying to write content for The Great Ambini, but using my phone was testing and my boyfriend was bored so acted like a toddler in need of attention. I was so annoyed by it, that I went to Tiger and bought a 1 euro cup and ball, which kept him quiet for hours! I would highly recommend!

 

Laugh often and have fun

 

We are happy, giggly and annoying people in public. In one museum, we once did a penis rating of all the statues – which kept us laughing. However, that’s what the world should be about! I laugh, sing and dance in public, I play games like a child trying to walk in a straight line and that’s how we enjoy travel.

We have so many inside jokes about things we’ve seen, heard and said. I also love people watching in tourist spots, sometimes we do sound like we’ve lost our minds when we play kids games to keep occupied.

 

In Venice, we hadn’t spoken to anyone else in about 48 hours – so we lost our minds and played “When I went to the supermarket I bought…”. It was beautiful and so random in the surreal beauty of the city! We also played some weird word games on the cross country trains in Italy (apologies for anyone listening to us get competitive!)

 

So that’s it guys. All the advice I have, if you have any other pearls of wisdom then comment below!

 

My boyfriend is my best friend and I love travelling with him, I just hope you have someone like that too.

Couple travel

Until next time

The Great Ambini

x x x

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13 Replies to “How to travel as a couple”

  1. My wife and I have been travelling together for the last nine months and a lot of this really resonates with me! It’s an amazing thing to do together but can be really difficult at times.

    I think the point about self care is the most important. It’s really vital to look after each other, and to know that it’s ok to have tired days and low days.

  2. This post came at a great time for me! I’ve been reading up a lot about traveling as a couple. You offer sincere and raw advice that was really insightful especially for me! Thank you for sharing!

  3. Excellent post! I would add that if you plan to travel with a loved one, definitely talk about it beforehand. Talk about each other’s expectations for the trip and who is expected to do what (if anything) along the way. For most couples that have arguments while traveling, its usually over a misunderstanding. Making things clear before starting eliminates the possibility of this before the fun begins.

  4. These are all great tips for traveling couples! I’ve never been great at traveling with ex-boyfriends before but some of these tips would have definitely helped 🙂

  5. The love you two have seems to radiate through your words and your photos. Some great advice and I am glad you guys can travel together without (too many!) hitches even though you are like chalk and cheese!

  6. You’ve touched all the essential points about traveling as a couple! Of course is not always a lifetime honeymoon but if we really know each other, respect each others individuality and nurture the relationship everyday, it will feel so wonderful at all time 😀 One of the things we have in mind is that, even if we are always together and have a pretty solid relationship, we voice out our emotions and always being honest no matter what! We can say that in almost 3 years being together we never had a fight or an argument 🙂
    Great tips guys, thanks for sharing!
    Safe travels,
    xx

    Patricia & Miguel
    https://freeoversea.com/blog/our-first-workaway-experience

  7. You’ve touched all the essential points about traveling as a couple! Of course is not always a lifetime honeymoon but if we really know each other, respect each others individuality and nurture the relationship everyday, it will feel so wonderful at all time 😀 One of the things we have in mind is that, even if we are always together and have a pretty solid relationship, we voice out our emotions and always being honest no matter what! We can say that in almost 3 years being together we never had a fight or an argument 🙂
    Great tips guys, thanks for sharing!
    Safe travels,

    Patricia & Miguel
    https://freeoversea.com/blog/our-first-workaway-experience

  8. I travel with my wife nearly always and completely identify with your experiences. I’m a pretty laidback traveller as well, while my wife likes to plan every last detail. I agree with your recommendations on the need to keep cool, accommodate each other and support each other while making your opinion clear. Insightful post!

  9. I love travelling with my partner, even if we occasionally get on each other’s nerves. I don’t think I could spend so much time together with anyone else and not get tired of being around them haha!

  10. Me and my husband has been travelling a lot even before our marriage. I completely agree with your opinion to give time for yourself and always voice out your emotions. The key ingredient of successful travellers in this vast world.

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